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Post-Valentine’s Day Blues….




Did anyone else think Valentine’s Day was just another day? 

I’ll try my hardest not to get sappy, judgmental, or be a pessimist throughout this post. Can’t make any promises! So rewind to Valentine’s Day 2019...got up for work and did my usual routine. Nothing special! No red and no makeup! I get to work and everyone is in the typical chipper mood, plus wearing red and putting out candies on heart shaped plates.

My coworker was so enthralled by the day that she actually left early just to get a head start on that nights festivities. I on the other hand avoided social media at all cost that day and only wished friends and family a “Happy V-Day” if they reached out first.

I am in a committed relationship (like getting married in 2 months committed). My significant other and I shared simplistic “Happy V-Day” messages as well. No plans, no surprise dinners, or deliveries. I am accustomed to spending the day by my lonesome, which this year I did repeat.

Later in the day I did check social media and saw the loving pictures and videos, I wasn’t cynical as I thought I would be and was genuinely enthused.  This past weekend I overheard my fiancĂ©e on the phone explaining Valentine’s Day to a peer, “It’s just a day and if she can’t understand that…” long story short this other man didn’t buy or show his women any affection and she was upset.

I agree with both sides…Valentine’s Day is just a day and affection can be shown any other 364 days in the year…but I also would appreciate the romantic date and chocolates.

The thoughtfulness that goes into making the day special makes me feel like a hopeless romantic.

What are your thoughts? Is V-Day too hyped and just a regular day or do you look forward to what it brings? What did you and your significant other do this past V-Day? If you’re single, how did you celebrate? 

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